This is me, openly (but somewhat hesitantly) admitting that a year or so ago, I was introduced to the show, The Bachelorette, in being aired on the one night that I usually had free to sit and relax at home after work. It may be mindless entertainment, but that's the beauty in it, right? That season, I developed a little soft spot for one of the guys on the show, who happened to be selected as the Bachelor himself the following season, and the soft spot for this next chosen person - coincidentally, before they were chosen - ultimately led to my continued watching of, (and yes, looking forward to) the show these past few seasons.
Moving on to the point now, because you're thinking, 'you're just justifying,' and well, yes...maybe a little, I am.
So now you know, and can raise an eyebrow if you must.
In watching the first episode of this season, Jake, depicted as all-around-good-guy and passionate pilot, was asked, "would you give up flying if the woman you loved wanted you to?" He thought about it after a few moments, answered the host, talking about how power love is, how love was everything and if he had to choose between the woman he loved and flying, which he loved, there would be no question, he'd give it up.
My instant reaction was an aloud, 'what?!' Call me a romantic - whether it's obvious or not - but my thought is, if your partner cares about you in a real, true way, they would respect your passion. Unless of course that passion is something unhealthy or damaging or a habit you're addicted to having, (even something healthy in good doses can be destructive if it's something we rely on having every day to feel 'good' or 'normal'). That person may not ever have that same passion - the exciting part of being in a relationship is the ability to exposing and becoming exposed to new things, new potential passions and interests - but he/she will always respect that one thing that is more important to you. Even if that one thing changes over time. Is that too much to expect out of a person, any person, who truly cares about you?
If I have a passion for taking walks everyday during sunrise, or meditating every night at sundown, or practicing yoga, or cooking, or writing, even for a few minutes every day, that one person who cares most about you may not want to take up the same practice but shouldn't they give you the room to foster an aspect of you that you find important?
My answer to that question would've been, 'if I've found the person I love who loves me and wants to be with me, I'll know that in part because even if they hated planes, or heights, or anything else about flying, they'd never ask me to choose between my passion and loving them.'
I believe love is all-encompassing, it shouldn't be dependent on nor be defined by a single characteristic of one person, and it stand alone - pure love means total acceptance of all that a person is.
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